This blog post will probably be all over the place. I'm sorry if none of it ends up making sense. I'm kind of just clearing my head. don't we all need to do that from time to time?
*sigh*
anyway... here goes.
You may have noticed that I've changed my blog's song to "Cinderella" by Steven Curtis Chapman. I've also titled this blog post "Dancing with Cinderella." I'm not kidding when I tell you that this song was in my dream today as I napped. This whole chain of events has been happening that I absolutely can not deny as the voice of God!! It all started Tuesday of last week when I was sitting in my minister's office. Every once in a while I get in these moods where I really need some one on one Eric/Becky time, so I call him up at the office and say "Eric, it's Becky. Drop everything... I'm coming in to talk... NOW!!" and he'll say to me "anything for you Becky!" (ok, not really, but whatever.) so anyway... we were talking and he said something to me along the lines of that it's very real that God speaks to people. and I confessed to him that while I know this to be true... I very rarely if ever have felt like I knew for a certain fact that God was speaking to me. That unless He were to email me directly and be like "Becky, it's God!" then I don't usually know if I hear Him... or what to "listen" for. I wonder if certain things that I perceive to be "signs" from God are really from God, or not.
Ok, so long story short... there's the backgroud info heading into this chain of events. This was Tuesday remember. Then Wednesday night, the kids and I went to church. I almost did not go because we are doing Wednesday night For The Master right now and there aren't any adult classes. But, I figured I'd go and let the kids go to class and I would find a quiet room to have my own meditation/quiet time with God... Something I've really been needing/craving especially since the talk that I'd had with Eric the day before.
So, I took this book with me that I've had sitting on a shelf forever (I mean, YEARS) that I still have not read called The Power of a Positive Mom. It is written by a christian author, Karol Ladd. I wrote a blog post a few days ago where I included a scripture from Proverbs. I got that from this book. What you didn't know though, is that I only quoted part of the scripture. I blogged: "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come." but the rest of that scripture is: "She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tougue." yeeeeah. I'm totally needing a refresher course in all of this. So... I start reading this book Wednesday night at church.
In the book, the author is debunkig the myth that modern society wants women to believe that motherhood causes women to miss out on the exciting things in life. She writes,
"Modern society is rampant with self-centered philosophies of "self improvement" and "self-actualization." We are bombarded daily with messages that tell us we should look out for number one and pursue our own interests and goals at any cost. This pervasive thinking, by implying that the selflessness of motherhood is not a worthy investment of our time and effort, often creates feelings of inadequacy in moms. The underlying myth is that if we endeavor to be attentive mothers, we are missing out in life. not so! Life begins with motherhood." she then goes on to write (and this is the part that really got me): "Besides, as Jesus said in Matthew 10:39, 'Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.' Committing ourselves to love and care for our children as God commands -- even if it means putting their needs above our own time and time again -- is the way to a full and abundant life."
Later in the first chapter, she encourages us to remember our employer. She writes
"If motherhood is our job, for whom do we work? Do we work to please the people of this world -- a society that tells us we're unimportant? Do we serve only our husband and children? Or are we working to honor our own needs? Colossians 3:17 gives us the answer. "And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving." She writes: "Our work is for the Lord. It is ultimately God we are pleasing as we devote ourselves to our family. It is God who will reward us one day for our untiring effort. If we were working for people in this world, we would no doubt want recognition or pay for our services. But ours is a higher calling. We are not working for money or accolades on earth; we are working with all of our heart for the Lord. In fact, our entire job is done from the heart, rooted in the motherly love God has given us for our children."
You're probably sitting there going "well, DUH Becky!!" and the thing is, yes... I already know all of this. But you know how sometimes, even though deep down you already know something, sometimes you just need to hear it again, or read it again, or have something happen that grabs your attention and makes you go "oooooooh"
that was me last week.
I needed that reminder that I am working for the Lord as I raise my children. That I am not working for other people, or for myself, but for the Lord our God, who trusted me with HIS children here on earth... and that if I lay down my own life for HIM, to do the things that HE is trusting me to do... then, I will in return find my life.
I confess.... I've really been selfish lately. And, yeah, I play the single mom card. it IS hard to get up day in and day out and take care of kids all by yourself. nobody walking in the door around dinner time to talk to, process the day with, hug even, for pete's sake. It's tough. I find myself counting hours until bed time on days when I feel like I can't take one more sibling fight in this house!!!!!!! and all I want to do in those moments is be selfish!
and then this morning in church, Eric is up there preaching away, when all of a sudden he whips out Mark 8:34 "Then he called the crowd to him along with his disciples and said: "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.
For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me and for the gospel will save it."
Ok God... I hear you now!!
That's twice in one week that I've been lead to the same scripture... found in two separate places.
So, we come home from church today, have lunch, and lay down for a nap, and this song by Steven Curtis Chapman is literally in my dream, only, it's a woman singing it, and I'm listening to this beautiful voice sing the song, when I feel someone nudge my shoulder, waking me up. Only, the nudge wasn't in my dream. It was very real. and it did wake me up. I thought it might be Levi who had crept ito my room, so I rolled over to see what he wanted, but noone was standing there. I walk into the living room, and Levi had fallen asleep on the floor. I was the only one awake.
but I'm telling you... I felt that nudge!
(I hear you, God!!)
If you listen to the words of the song, he sings:
She spins and she sways
To whatever song plays
Without a care in the world
And I'm sitting here wearing
The weight of the world on my shoulders
It's been a long day
And there's still work to do
She's pulling at me
Saying "Dad, I need you
There's a ball at the castle
And I've been invited
And I need to practice my dancing
Oh, please, Daddy, please?"
So I will dance with Cinderella
While she is here in my arms
'Cause I know something the prince never knew
Oh, I will dance with Cinderella
I don't wanna miss even one song
'Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight
And she'll be gone...
She says he's a nice guy and I'd be impressed
She wants to know if I approve of her dress
She says, "Dad, the prom is just one week away
And I need to practice my dancing
Oh, please, Daddy, please?"
So I will dance with Cinderella
While she is here in my arms
'Cause I know something the prince never knew
Ooh-oh ooh-oh I will dance with Cinderella
I don't want to miss even one song
'Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight
And she'll be gone
She will be gone
Well, she came home today with a ring on her hand
Just glowing and telling us all they had planned
She says, "Dad, the wedding's still six months away
But I need to practice my dancing
Oh, please, Daddy, please?"
So I will dance with Cinderella
While she is here in my arms
'Cause I know something the prince never knew
Ooh-oh ooh-oh I will dance with Cinderella
I don't want to miss even one song
'Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight
And she'll be gone
what's haunting about that, is that about a month ago, Steven Curtis Chapman's youngest daughter was killed in an accident. long AFTER this song was written.
tell me, that God is not speaking directly to me!! (I won't believe you though)
so, last week, I worked more on Dancing with my Cinderella (and Prince Charming). We had a very full week. Many fun activities. I think it was a good week for all of us.
You know... (and this is going off on a whole different, yet kind of related, rant...)
if you love something, and want to get it, or keep it in excellent condition, you have to maintain it. You want your car to run smoothly... you have it maintained so many miles. You can not put something aside and ignore it, or forget about it, then go to pull it out months later and expect it to run in pristine condition. If it's been sitting for a while not getting any TLC, it's probably not going to respond right away. and the same goes for relationships. your relationship with yourself and with others. Maintenance.
Dance with Cinderella.
I am
Cinderella and Prince Charming today at a new park we discovered within walking distance of our house: